Please Vote On Tuesday

November 3, 2008

I am not going to tell you WHO you vote for but I will tell you why you should vote. We as Americans really have become lazy with the political process and its time we stand up and let our voices be heard! 1992 was my first time voting and I am happy to say that I voted as followed 92-2000 Clinton, 2000 for Gore, 2004 Kerry and in 2008 I was very very torn. I am a HUGE HUGE Hillary Supporter and though I feel Obama is qualified I feel with Hillary we would be even better after the horrible 8 years we have suffered. Then we have McCain who I was ready to vote for because to be honest I was a jaded Hillary fan.

Well, things changed when he chose Palin for his VP spot. Palin has 3 things that I can NOT turn the cheek on: Her stance against gay rights, anti-abortion, and I dont think she would be able to separate her Christian beliefs from her duties! Obama, I just dont know and still after all this timebetween primaries and now I can't say that I really know where he stands. I can say that he does motivate and inspire me but I still have that seed of doubt in the back of my head.

I almost thought of not voting because I wasnt comfortable with either, but then the world around me is screaming for CHANGE! Our economy is on the verge of major downfall, our rights within the LGBT community are being denied, and the lack of healthcare is killing many who could still be living today! With all this being said I cast my absentee ballot for Barack Obama on the hope he will deliver the CHANGE he promises!

Whether you vote for Obama or not PLEASE exercise your right andVOTE tomorrow!

May God Bless our new President and each and every one of us!

SEE YOU AT THE POLLS.

How Can We Stop The Hate When It Exists In Our Own Community?

September 20, 2008

I honestly hope this doesn't come off as harsh, but how can we honestly stop the hate when its so common in our own community? First there are many gay males who think transsexuals are gross or just here for their entertainment in gay clubs. Since I am known for my Adult career and personal lifestyle choices I get dirty looks and judged unfairly by gay men all the time. NOT ALL GAY MEN but a large majority who would rather say "eww" or "gross" but are the first to hit gay.com or a bookstore! These same gay males then spew their "opinions' to their straight friends of how we are "freaks" or "drag queens" not themselves being able to explain my lifestyle to them. I had a gay friend once say "you only did this because you couldn't cut it as a guy"! So imagine what they say to their friends if they have the balls to say that to my face. Then if transsexuals go to straight clubs or hang out with females you have a bunch of gay friends who will say "you are turning your back on us". So really you are damned if you do or damned if you dont!!

This topic brings me to the VERY common hate that happens among fellow ts. Some post op ts's hate on the preops because we are not "true women" if we enjoy our penis. Then you have those who want to put down those ts's that CHOOSE too escort. Jealousy runs rampant within our own community and honestly I have more problems within my own community then I do the "straight" side of anything. No wonder people are confused, misinformed and outright wrong. I think if we as individuals chose to allow people to make their own choices and stop using the "it's my opinion" as an excuse to stick their nose in other's business we would be much better off! I am been guilty of it in the past but came too a conclusion that no matter how hard I try I will never satisfy everyone. There will be people that say that my adult jobs reflect poorly on the transsexual community YET there are female and male pornstars that have the same ridicule.

I have a Bachelors Degree in Communications from Eastern Kentucky University and it makes me so mad when people say " I work hard and you reflect badly on your community". How the hell do you know what my life is about besides what you read or see on the internet? How would you know that I have an office that employees four people, that I not only pay taxes but also claim my adult job which MOST never do. I use my degree in marketing and the branding "Wendy Williams".

I guess its time we start educating our gay friends, our fellow sisters and stop living in a two faced society where we EXPECT the straight community to understand something we barely do.

Wendy

 

Hate, Discrimination, Behind The Eyes Of A Transsexual Woman.

Should I Tell A Guy I'm A Transsexual Woman When I First Meet Them?


With recent stories of young tg women meeting strangers and then being killed only for the attacker to use the "I freaked out" escuse, I decided too ask a few friends what they thought and I was very disturbed by the responses.

Its hard enough to function in everyday society as a preop transsexual woman, I transititoned later in life so I can only wonder how young tg girls are doing it with no proper education or life experience. Everyday when I go in public I am conscious of people around me. Are they starring because they know? Am I too tall? Is my voice too deep? And so much more paranoid things going in my mind. So Ive lived my life now for 8 years full time and with a name change, sex on my passport changed, hormone therapy, etc

So my question is WHEN AM I OBLIGATED TO TELL A GUY? I say the answer is when and if ONLY you are going to pursue it sexually or maybe relationship wise. Now dont get me wrong I have been guilty of performing oral sex on someone who I didn't tell or I "assumed" they knew! I dont think it was safe but honestly I wasn't thinking when I did it. I guess the old saying "thinking with the wrong head" truly was the case.

But let me say that if I meet a guy in a club or out, I dont think its my responsibility to automatically say "Hi Im Wendy and Im a transsexual". If and when it gets to the point that I feel he should know then and there I will tell him. Why am I deprived of him getting to know me, Wendy, as the woman I am instead of the "TRANSSEXUAL". I think youth get caught up in the idea that these "straight' men are wanting to have fun and they live this fantasy of pleasing that straight guy but dont think of the circumstances of what a mind f**k that would and can be for the guy! So lets examine this issue more and get some dialogue going. When do you feel its the time or scenario to disclose this information?

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